Monday, December 29, 2003
NOTES TO A DIVA-IN-TRAINING (from one who's been there):
(**in reply to an email from a Darling Diva-in-Training**)
Dear Angel,
I would never, ever tell you that "oh, you've only known each other for 3 months, you can't possibly be in love." I'm actually a believer in love at first sight (hard to believe, I know, from some of my posts, but true, nonetheless).
As a woman who has had many trust issues of her own, I would say this: Each person who comes into your life has a purpose. Something to teach you. It may be happy, loving and joyful, and/or painful, truthful and sharp, but altogether, you will learn. Ultimately, you have no choice but to learn. If you choose NOT to learn, you will only be given the lesson over and over until you finally "get it."
Cherish the happy, fun, teasing, goofy, silly, loving, mushy, sexy moments you have with (him). Grin, bite and bear the painful, hurtful, truthful, self-facing, angry, hard moments you have with him too. You will learn something from both.
You'll learn that you're worth loving. That a man is capable of loving you too. That not all men are asses (even though it seems a lot of them are). You'll also learn that because you're fearful of newness, change, and the wonderful goodness within yourself, you'll often push away the great guys in your life.
And you'll learn these things until you can see them for what they are -- accept the good things as they come, and squash your fears until you realize that you ARE beautiful. You ARE special. You ARE wonderful. You ARE worth it, and capable of being loved.
God(dess) help me if I sound like a f*cking self-help book, but it's all true. And when you're able to realize it....truly, honestly believe it, you'll fall in love completely. And you'll be happy - without waiting for the other shoe to drop. (It can happen, really!)
We all f*ck up. We all make bad choices. We ALL do things that, in the end, make us smack our foreheads and say "DOH! Why the HELL did I DO that???"
You know why? So you can learn not to do it when the right person comes into your path.
Enjoy your life, Angel-baby, every second.
Diva-Empathically Yours,
Vi
